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Friday, 10 January 2014 08:19
It’s that time of the year where most of us are focusing our energies on those unwanted holiday pounds, firming up before bathing suit season, and making better choices for a healthier lifestyle. While there’s nothing wrong with this—in fact I’m doing it myself—I do think that it’s important to keep things, in perspective. I ran across the following TedEx video in my newsfeed. I can honestly say I don’t ever watch videos that are longer than a couple of minutes, let along a thirteen-minute video, but I couldn’t stop. I encourage you to watch this video and ask yourself… Read more...

Divorce: New Year, New Woman

Friday, 03 January 2014 15:34
  It is officially a New Year. To a lot of people, this means making a promise to live a better lifestyle. This could mean joining a gym and eating healthier. Some choose to give up a bad habit or commit to a new hobby. Others make a promise to be kinder to family, friends, and coworkers. There are so many ways we can improve ourselves, but most of us look at external changes.  What would happen if instead of focusing on our external appearance, we worked on our emotional well-being? I strongly believe that if we started there, the… Read more...

Divorce: Presence

Friday, 20 December 2013 08:45
I am a very impatient person at times. In fact, I often resemble a child at Christmas who cannot wait for Christmas morning, and tear through the wrapping paper to unveil my presents. I’m not sure how I got this way and I know I’m not alone in constantly looking ahead to that point of accomplishment, only to forget to enjoy the journey.  Something I was guilty of, while married, was not living in the moment. I would consume myself with thoughts about work, friends, family, and other things instead of living my life in each wonderful minute. I was… Read more...

Divorce: New Traditions

Thursday, 12 December 2013 09:15
Like clockwork, we follow a schedule of holiday parties or Christmas Eve and Christmas Day festivities each year. Family, friends, and the traditions we look forward to can be comforting during the holidays. But when a divorce happens, those traditions can change drastically.  Last year, I planned to spend Christmas afternoon with my son. But as Christmas Eve was getting closer, I was a little worried that I would be spending the week leading up to the holiday alone. However, in my effort to establish a new life and new traditions, I was keeping myself open to new friendships, and… Read more...

Divorce: Budgeting for the Holidays

Thursday, 05 December 2013 05:29
It’s that time of year when we all start shopping for Christmas presents for family and friends. It’s a wonderful time to reflect on the relationships we have and give selflessly to those we love. I really like this time of year, but as of last year, I had to set a concrete budget. I don’t have the kind of income I once did as a married woman. Now, on a single income, I have to watch what I spend and be OK with not overdoing the gift giving. At first, I felt guilty for not being able to afford… Read more...

Giving Thanks EVERY Day

Tuesday, 26 November 2013 06:08
Thanksgiving. Does it have a different meaning for everyone? Does everyone give thanks on this holiday? I would bet not, although I wish that was not true. What I do think is that it is important to recognize what you are thankful for in your life every day, not just on Thanksgiving. Everyone has problems; everyone has something in their life they wish they could change. Maybe we should just seek out at least one good thing in our lives and be thankful for it, EVERY DAY! Life is short and unpredictable. It can be taken away from you in… Read more...

Divorce: My Closet

Thursday, 14 November 2013 04:10
A year and a half has gone by since my decision to venture out on my own and build a new life. Throughout the journey, I have learned so much about who I am on the inside, and who I desire to be for my son, family, friends, and my career. Naturally, this inward reflection prompted me to look at my outward appearance and uncover what this new woman should look like. My newfound style would showcase what I discovered about myself once I chiseled away the exterior I had lived with as a married woman. I wasn’t sure what… Read more...

Divorce: Letting Go

Wednesday, 06 November 2013 09:41
Someone very near and dear to me recently told me that we are all damaged goods. My first reaction was sheer disbelief, and I wanted to challenge that theory. However, the more we discussed this topic, the more I realized he was right. Think about it: All of us have a past and have dealt with hurtful experiences. Most of us over the age of twenty-one have had our fair share of positive and negative things that have either knocked us down emotionally or lifted us up. These experiences have shaped our personal view of ourselves, others, and the world.… Read more...

Divorce: Retreat

Wednesday, 30 October 2013 10:34
Everyone goes through tough times. Life can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and managing it can be a lot like walking through a hillside filled with land mines. On top of the daily challenges life presents, throw in a traumatic divorce. I don’t think anyone can prepare themselves for the crazy, out-of-control, bipolar-like emotions of managing through a divorce. I thought I was the exception. Fast forward to four months after my separation. It was the beginning of November 2012, and everything I thought I “had together” seemed to crumble in my hands. Work was challenging at the time. The… Read more...

First-Time Aunt

Monday, 28 October 2013 09:26
I am not pregnant and do not have any children. But as of recently, it is a topic that I think about almost everyday. I feel like everywhere I go a woman is pregnant, or I’m hearing of a close friend trying to get pregnant, or there are kids running around. I am often asked if my husband and I have children, and I always answer with a “not yet, maybe one day” answer. The majority of my close friends have all had at least one child so far, and for the most part have all had them in their… Read more...